"The reason superstitions form is that they are a means of coping with uncertainty. Superstitions are typically found in situations in which an element of risk exists.The problem is that, if you consider outcomes as both things that do or do not happen because of some action you did or did not take, then just about everything becomes a candidate for rituals. When these rituals start to rule your life, so that they control your actions, you are entering territory where there is no freedom to choose because your emotions have got the better of your will."
Bruce Hood
The Self Illusion: How the Social Brain Creates Identity

Only people willing to work to the point of discomfort on a regular basis using effective means to produce that discomfort will actually look like they have been other than comfortable most of the time.

The Misconception of love

  • Patient: I do not want to live, I cannot live without my husband, I love him so much
  • Psychologist: You are mistaken; you do not love your husband
  • Patient: (angrily) What do you mean!?
  • Patient: I just told you I can't live without him
  • Psychologist: What you describe is parasitism, not love. When you require another individual for your survival, you are a parasite on that individual. there is no choice, no freedom involved in your relationship. It is a matter of necessity rather than love. Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without eachother but choose to live with each other.