Only people willing to work to the point of discomfort on a regular basis using effective means to produce that discomfort will actually look like they have been other than comfortable most of the time.

The Misconception of love

  • Patient: I do not want to live, I cannot live without my husband, I love him so much
  • Psychologist: You are mistaken; you do not love your husband
  • Patient: (angrily) What do you mean!?
  • Patient: I just told you I can't live without him
  • Psychologist: What you describe is parasitism, not love. When you require another individual for your survival, you are a parasite on that individual. there is no choice, no freedom involved in your relationship. It is a matter of necessity rather than love. Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without eachother but choose to live with each other.